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The time, it is a’changing

A thought here, and it might be a little rambling, so bear with me.

Are a smoker’s social skills different? I don’t just mean that we smell of smoke and indulge in a disgusting habit (which, clearly we do, but it’s our habit, so any comments about the wisdom of smoking will be deleted. You’ve been told in advance), but that we engage socially in short bursts.

I say this as I’ve been moving gently towards quitting for a few weeks now, and have been considering what not smoking will do to the minutae of my life. There are only a few places left where I can smoke indoors (pubs aside, and that all changes next year anyway), and aside from that, I’m aware that my conversations with non-smokers truncate themselves every hour or so, as I excuse myself to go out for a smoke. So, any point I’m making is made more quickly, an ongoing discussion takes place in a time-limited space that involves returning, and indulging in a “where were we?” moment before staring again. And obviously, conversations with smokers are therefore longer, as they’re the ones I get to continue outside, with material discussed between ourselves and not between non-smokers and smokers. I’ve had long, two-or-three cigarette conversations with smokers (usually in good weather) that delve more deeply into the subject than the chat inside (and vice-versa when I don’t feel like standing in the rain), and I’m wondering if there’ll be a conscious adjustment when I’m not excusing myself every hour or so.

Will I slow down? Will I notice any difference at all? Time will tell.

Thoughts, as ever, are welcome (with the proviso noted above).

Discussion

3 comments for “The time, it is a’changing”

  1. It’s interesting that you say ” we smell of smoke and indulge in a disgusting habit (which, clearly we do, but it’s our habit,”

    Which clearly suggests you think that smokers are different from everyone else, a separate group of people. That says a lot about what you probably think about smoking – that it defines you. Which is why you may find it harder to give up than you think.

    Remember, it’s nothing to do with nicotine. That’s just yet another smokescreen (ha ha). It’s about the habit. Break that and you’re sorted. Not easy though. You have to actually want to do it rather than just thinking it’s probably for the best, maybe.

    Posted by Nick O'Teen | October 7, 2006, 10:07 pm
  2. The main difference you’ll notice is all that EXTRA MONEY in your pocket! You used to be the most militant smoker I know, I hope you’re not getting soft.

    Posted by Simon | October 8, 2006, 10:02 am
  3. “Never tell anyone that you’re writing a book, going on a diet, exercising, taking a course, or quitting smoking. They’ll encourage you to death.” Lynn Johnson – Canadian cartoonist

    Posted by Chloe | October 8, 2006, 6:51 pm

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